I’m back with another post about my dating life specifically my awkward experiences from being on online dating apps. By awkward I don’t mean weird or creepy (I haven’t had many since I don’t divulge a lot of my personal info (including my name) on these apps). But here are some awkward aspects of online dating –
AWKWARD ASPECT #1: Someone from your REAL life liking your profile on the app
SO SO SO AWKWARD! The first time this happened was a few days into me creating an online dating profile (back in 2019). A man from my office who sat on the same floor, liked my profile and it was so so awkward since I obviously didn’t match with him. He worked with my team on occasion and all encounters after were awkward AF. My boss then was a really good friend, so I told her what happened and incidentally that very day we had to share the lift with him. My boss couldn’t stop laughing at how awkward I was. 🙈 It has happened a few times after and every single time it is SO awkward mostly because I haven’t wanted to match with them.
AWKWARD ASPECT #2: Having people on your GRAM that you’ve never met and stopped talking to a while back
I usually share my number only on the day of the date, I find it more comfortable to share my Instagram handle. With a few guys, we got to chatting on IG but never really got to meeting and it eventually fizzled out. Usually I forget about their existence till a few months later when I notice a like or that they’ve viewed my story. *Awkward* Whenever this happens – I usually unfollow and delete them that instant.
AWKWARD ASPECT #3: Having people on your GRAM that you met for one date but find awkward to delete
I mean is it rude to delete someone you don’t intend to see again? I don’t know the social rules around this. I usually wait a few months and then delete them off my IG. 🙈 (There are a handful people that I ended up becoming really good friends with despite not wanting to date each other – they stay.) Very recently I realized I am still following a guy I met for one date in January 2020 and how I realized it was when he posted his engagement photo. SO SO AWKWARD. 😀
AWKARD ASPECT #4: Realizing that you have common friends with the person you matched with
This has happened one too many times now with me. I usually stalk the guys thoroughly before sharing my IG with them and this stalking has often led me to find common friends on IG or Linkedin. You are wondering why this is awkward? If it is a random common friend – it isn’t, but when it is someone close – it adds pressure and makes me feel like hiding some parts of me. Also, my friend’s opinions cloud my judgement of the guy too, so I prefer to not date someone with a common friend. Eg: I almost went on a date with my ex-flat mate’s boyfriend’s flat mate. But realized the connection and found it too awkward to go through with the date. 😀
AWKWARD ASPECT #5: A ghost resurfaces to haunt your life
Haha! I’m sure the title had you all – WHUTT? It is so awkward when someone who ghosted you comes back and wants to try dating again (this has happened 2-3 times now – ghosted after 1 date – made me doubt self – resurfaced after 3-4 months). I ALWAYS say no and I am very frank in my conversations and make sure to let them know what a jerk they were – which always leads to an AWKWARD conversation. UGH.
(Thankfully I don’t give ghost-ers another chance – imagine adding that to my list of stupid things I’ve done)
What are some things about dating (since most of these are applicable to normal dating too) that you find awkward to deal with? Did you relate with my list? 😀
PS: Give me ideas for what more I can write about in this series! I’d love to know what would interest you – tips especially around safety, fun stories and anecdotes, funny incidents, etc.
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