This is definitely a rant post, I got off the wrong side of the bed – kidding. I woke up and saw something on Instagram that just irritated me. Our society has different rules and standards for men and women. While women are tirelessly working to change this but things are still slow to change.
Here are a few things that the society needs to stop putting women through –
Pitting woman against woman
I saw this video on Instagram today morning – comparing Selena Gomez and Kim Kardashian’s answers in Vogue’s 73 questions interview. When asked the one THING they can’t live without Selena says her family and Kim says KKW contour. First of all the video was edited, the question asked to Kim was the one product she can’t live without. Second, even if it was real – the question was one thing not person so her answer is legit. Plus, the Kardashian family is what it is because of excellent marketing skills – and that’s what she is doing here.
It is so annoying that people find the need to pit women against women. How often do you see a video like this about two extremely successful men? (Imagine pitting Jeff Bezos against Elon Musk) The worst thing is that women are so quick to jump in and pull down other women. In a world where the odds are stacked against us, women really need to stick up for other women.
Shaming women for not having children
Yes, we’ve been given the miracle of being able to birth but that doesn’t mean we HAVE to have children. Just because someone has been gifted with a beautiful voice doesn’t mean they have to become a singer! Stop pressurizing women to have children. If it is not your body, if it is not affecting your life – you don’t have a say in it. PERIOD.
Forcing body and beauty standards on women
This one is personal – I’ve grown up listening to acquaintances tell me that I’m never going to find a man because I’m fat and believing them. It is not okay to force these ever changing body and beauty standards on women. In my teens, I couldn’t even find my size in clothes from popular brands (until M&S came along and made me feel normal but even they only had sizes up to 20 back then). I also don’t understand the need for a separate line of clothes for larger women. Brands think that they are trying to be inclusive but excluding larger sizes from the regular clothes they have and having a whole other section and range of clothes seems like they are singling out larger women. I haven’t seen any such thing for men atleast in stores in India – the same clothes have larger sizes to accommodate all sizes of men.
You need to be fair, you need to be size zero, you need to be tall, you need to have silky hair, your nose needs to be smaller, you need botox, you need to colour your grey hair, you need to wear makeup to cover your acne scars – STOP. Nobody needs to fit into a particular mould that the society thinks is a perfect woman. If someone chooses to do it because it makes them happy – that is perfect – but no one should be made to feel ugly or less than because they don’t meet the “ideal” beauty goals.
Expecting women to do all the household work
We are in the 21st century, can we stop expecting women to manage the entire household? A home is an equal partnership between a man and a woman – similarly all household work should be a 50-50 partnership between the two. Men need to be pulled up when they don’t help around with house work. Similarly, men don’t need to be praised if they do work at home – they are just doing their work, just like women have been for centuries without praise.
Judging women or shaming women for what they wear
Can we please just stop doing this already? I totally understand judging the clothes if it doesn’t match your style but judging the woman in the clothes for wearing those clothes – needs to stop. Stop shaming women for wearing clothes that they like – whether it is long clothes on a beach or short clothes on the street.
I know this is a rant post but these are genuine things that need to change in the society. What are some things that you think that need to change in the society?
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