I recently had an encounter that left me wondering if I’m a total weirdo. It wasn’t an out of the ordinary sort of an encounter but I’ve been overthinking my reactions thereafter mainly because I might have ruined what could have been a pleasant encounter by being weird. So here’s what happened…
I met someone and… they complimented me. Yeah, I’m going to explain that. I am really awkward about compliments – I never know how to react to one, I usually mumble a thank you and try to make a quick getaway. Usually it’s a single, general compliment but this time this person complimented me on a couple of facets and it got me SO freaked out. My first instinct was to mistrust what they were saying – my brain went into over drive – surely this person was being THIS nice cause they wanted something in return from me. My brain started flagging everything they were saying as red flags! I got really awkward and tried to change the topic everytime the compliments came up or brushed them off and instead of accepting the compliments tried to explain how they were not true.
I know you’re thinking – she has self esteem issues – which I do and don’t. There are some fronts – like physical appearance wherein I do have self esteem issues – something I’ve been working on for the past few years. But in general I am just terrible at accepting compliments. It’s not even about getting them from someone new – even with friends and family – I get super awkward – unless it’s just about the pretty dress I’m wearing. I guess I grew up in a family that didn’t just hand out compliments that easily – you really had to earn them. Maybe that’s what’s made me THIS awkward about accepting compliments especially if I feel like I haven’t outrightly earned them. I’m also socially awkward and I guess that factors in too.
So what is the correct response to a compliment? Are you supposed to blush and say thank you? Are you supposed to compliment them back? What is the socially acceptable “normal” response? Am I weird?
I haven’t been writing a lot these past few days. Too much work, a lot of anxiety and very few ideas. So definitely checkout my recent old posts and give them some love –